Staying put foster carers - Mick and Pauline

After over a decade of fostering with Essex County Council, Mick and Pauline Davies recently retired from being foster carers. They have been a huge support for young people in foster care, even winning awards and taking part in inspiring other people into becoming foster carers themselves. 

We had a chat with Mick about his favourite parts of being a foster carer and what he would say to someone who is thinking of applying.   

Mick and Pauline have been a huge support for young people in foster care in Essex, long-term fostering in particular has been their passion.  

“I believe long-term fostering is a great way to give a young person a stable future,” said Mick. The children Mick and Pauline have cared for are truly part of the family. Even after moving out, some of their cared for children still pop round for Christmas and join family celebrations.  

Although Mick and Pauline are officially retiring, the two young people they’re currently caring for are “staying put”. 

Mick and Pauline will continue to offer their home and support to two young people, including Bebe. With Mick and Pauline’s support, Bebe has become a successful international athlete.  

Welcoming their foster children into a big family is one of Mick’s favourite parts of being a foster carer. Another favourite part? Sharing new experiences!  

Every child entering foster care has had their lives disrupted and will need help with overcoming this. Mick notes how exciting it is to give a child the moments they may have missed out on.  

“Giving a child an experience, they’ve never had is rewarding. Their first holiday is a big one.  

“The whole journey, the chance to explore a new place – it’s lovely to see the children excited.” 

As well as making up for “missed moments”, it’s important for foster carers to stay empathic of the birth families.  

Like anyone, every foster child has a different back story and their relationships with their birth families will be different. During his experience as a foster carer, Mick learned that it can be tough for them too.  

“You need to remember that the family are missing their child. It doesn’t hurt to always speak to them kindly and with empathy,”  

Speaking respectfully is a key part of Essex County Council's therapeutic fostering approach. You’re setting an example for the children, helping them process and communicate their own emotions more appropriately.   

Finally – what would Mick say to anyone thinking of applying to become a foster carer? 

“Have a go! You have the chance to be a positive influence and give children some stability in their lives. You really do get so much from it.” 

Chat to our enquiry team, Lesley and Karen 

Being a foster carer is an incredibly fulfilling role, and Mick and Pauline are true advocates. There are several types of foster care, and our enquiry team will help you find a path that best suits you and your family. 

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